It was 4th of July, yes Independence Day for those fellow Americans as my wife and I were having dinner with some friends when idle discussions turned to winning the lottery. Ok, know what you’re thinking; however face it everyone waxes with the topic as its one of those pastimes which we seem to enjoy exploring the big “what if”. However the interesting thing this time is we being three middle income families here speaking of what it would be like to win 70 million as a win fall via a lottery. The reason for calling this “interesting” is all three own homes which are more than sufficient for their comfortable existence, they also have new cars, savings in the bank, so on and so on. Thus, each has plenty more then they require for a reasonably comfortable modern existence, so why talk whimsically about winning the luck of the draw?
The answer in fact is rather simple as “life is hard“, yes you read that correctly, our life is in fact hard and 70 million would make it so much easier wouldn’t it? Here is where it gets interesting as everyone in this coffee klatch has lived life with a lot less, so we have to ask ourselves why is “life hard“. Alright, are you sitting down for the real answer, it’s because we make it that way. Yes, you read that correctly “we make it that way” for ourselves, so the next question is why do we do this?
One of the reasons is “purpose“, as injecting “challenges” into our life adds to the “spice” of life if we wish to steal from a cliché. In fact there have been various pop-culture/business works discussing the fact that we actually require challenges in life for us to attain enjoyment, so isn’t this a catch 22 scenario in the end game? You bet it is as unless we are unhappy, we can’t be happy as if we are happy, we are unchallenged and therefore unhappy.
Whew, that a hurt a little, however it is a massive truth and a critical factor for your tool box as a leader because everyone around you wants a problem to solve (read as challenge) and even so much so they will go out of their way to create one! Therefore your job as a leader is to sniff out the real deal from fake follies which will end up leading you down a rat hole wasting your limited time and energy.
The other thing is self introspection, look at yourself, as are you guilty of this crime too? Well, will bet if dollars and donuts where to be added up would guess the answer to that question is a simple yes as its in all of us. As one of things I’ve added to my personal regimen lately is to look at my “problems” and ask myself, am I creating this to further personal value or is this real? A charity should always start at home and living in a glasshouse myself want to avoid throwing as many stones as possible…